So does everyone actually get over their exes?
I know I do. It takes a bit, some a bit longer than others.
Rebounds. We all do it. We all have, and if you say no, I say liar. For me, a rebound is needed more if I get dumped… so… it’s happened… twice. Three times if you count the mexican mistake after Eric, but I dumped him. I have managed to keep it under wraps, they all knew what they were and were made aware of it. I’m not one to bullshit. I would hate to be rebounded off of… more so if I wasn’t made aware of it.
I didn’t need a rebound after Tim. I just didn’t. It was my choice to leave him and I left him for some damn good reasons. I never rebounded. I just went on with what I was doing and enjoyed myself. They don’t call me the collector for nothing. So it’s definitely been a handful of years since I’ve needed a rebound boy, and that’s what made me think of this.
Sometimes, I think people have a hard time getting over the past. I understand that. I realize that if you spend a long time with someone you can’t just click your fingers and be done. But it doesn’t help if you are still really involved in your exes life. Both times, with Eric (whom I lived with for years) and Tim I immediately cut all ties. Pictures went down, bills separated, living space separated, possessions divided. That’s it. Done. I’m still friends with a couple exes but we def do not hang out on a regular basis. If you don’t do all of this, things never move on.
Then there’s the opposite side. I am sure not comfortable if someone I am with or interested in is still involved with an ex. If you’re friends, sure, but beyond that naw. It’s honest to god not a jealousy thing, it’s more of an annoyance. Everyone knows I have a huuuge ego, there’s not any exes exes that I don’t think I’m better than. I just wouldn’t want to get involved with someone who is dependent on an ex or has the possibility of being wrapped up still.