So last night I ventured outside of my circle. Again. And you know what? It was a lot of fun. I went out with a few acquaintances and hit up a bar (ladies night- yay for free drinks) for some pool and music. Wasn’t really my scene, but I took a chance and bam. Smiles. Laughter. Fun. Made a new friend. Talked motocross and sleds with a group as well. Not bad at all. Looks like I have a few riding partners now too. :)
Anyway. The more I push myself out of my circle, the happier I am. It’s actually quite nice to be with people who aren’t involved in all the petty drama. I don’t have to smile at them and wonder “Are they still mad at me?” or “Wow, they look sooo thrilled to see me”. I mean in reality, there is only a handful of people I have to worry about, but eh.
On that note. I still ended the night at my “home bar”. Had to stop in and say hi to everyone. Dragged one of my new friends with me. Pretty fun. Dancing. Talking. Music. That’s one thing that isn’t going to change. I may not be completely in the circle, but I will still go to my home bar, despite some people being weird about it. I love everyone there and love seeing them. So I may be changing up my circle, and broadening my horizons, but I’ll still be in there once in a while. Chances are just with different people.
The one thing I’ve learned so far this year is that you are who you surround yourself with. If you surround yourself with positive people, you’re more positive. The majority of my friends are really laid back, loyal and don’t give a crap type. I light up the room for them, they light up the room for me. The people I can look in the eyes and genuinely feel grateful to see every single time are my friends. The people I don’t have to doubt or worry about. It took a blow out by a PSUEDO friend for me to realize this. I was surrounding myself with people who only value a friendship with how much they get out of it. Who thrive off of he said she said shit, instead of laughter and smiles.
A friend is someone you will ask you out for coffee despite their friends. A friend is someone who finds YOU and hugs you before you can get to them. A friend is someone who loves you despite your flaws, and backs up the positive decisions you’ve made. A friend is someone who lets you learn the negative lessons on your own, then helps you grow from the outcome.
I have many acquaintances, and I have many friends… friends I didn’t expect and friends from the strangest places.
I’ve learned that you have to open your eyes to see these people who care for you, and you have to walk away from the toxic.
*raises coffee cup* Cheers.