[Explanation: This is not a hack on all single mothers or all ex-wives. This is for those women who divorce a man for whatever reason but then refuse to let go. This is for the women who get mad when things start going right for the man that *they* walked out on. This is for those mothers who spend too much money on frivolous shit and then complain when they don’t have money for their half of their child’s necessities. Take offense if you must but if you do, think about why you’re offended. ] [ This is also not a dig on mothers who want their ex-husbands to pay child support or their half of the child’s expenses. I am also a mother, who unfortunately has an ex-husband who doesn’t pay a dime. ]
Yeah you. I’m sure this will get around to you some how. Someone you know will see it and link it to you, and that’s okay. I’m cool with that. I am also writing this so other ex-wives understand what they have signed up for.
I just wanted to explain something to you. I am an ex-wife too, I, like you decided to end my marriage and continue on, on my own. More power to you! However, there are consequences to your actions, especially when your ex-husband decides to enter a long-term relationship with a girl like me.
I am a single mother. I do it all with out any child-support or assistance from the state (not that that is wrong, unless you abuse it… ahem). I have worked my ass off to get to where I am today, which includes a mortgage, car, as well as day to day expenses. I am proud of the fact that I’ve managed to make it this far, and if my accomplishments bother you, too bad.
So lets get down to what is bothering you then shall we?
From what I guess, you’re kind of salty that the man you divorced is living a stable and happy life. My mistake, but what you could do is maybe get a “real” job, you know one with benefits and hours that let you actually spend time with your kid. You know, the kind where you don’t drink *and* pay your taxes? It’s not his fault that you’re broke and it’s not my fault that you’re in the same place as you were when you left him.
Speaking of money. I’ve told you numerous times that I’ll give you half of the money that is needed for something. I offered to pay for half of the school supply package, I have no problem paying half of baseball, I have no problem buying the kid clothes. Hell, I called you a little over a week ago and asked what clothes he needed, “Just maybe some basketball shorts, he’s fine other than that.” Apparently you forgot that information since “Well he needs a whole new wardrobe” popped up today. I am not a fool. I will not be bailing you out of whatever financial hole you have gotten yourself into. One of the consequences of getting a divorce is becoming financially independent. It’s called budgeting.
Also, as you may now know, money does not grow on trees. I understand that you want to send your child to some camp that magically costs $400 (which by the way, I have internet, you shouldn’t lie). We unfortunately do not see that as reasonable, so we cannot come up with that large of a sum of money. We do have bills to pay, remember, we’re *not* on welfare? As a mother myself, I cannot favor one child over another, and since I cannot afford to send my daughter to camp, I cannot afford to send your kid either. I’m a huge fan of avoiding favoritism.
Also, I need you to remember that you’re the EX. You are no longer apart of my boyfriends life. You left him, so there should be no bitching. I can’t believe that he has repeatedly had to explain to you that he doesn’t want to hear about your day. There is no need for daily phone calls unless it is from his child or about his child. I need you to realize that beyond the fact that you’re still alive and at least attempting to provide your child with a good life, neither of us care. I’m sorry this seems to bother you so much, but you’d think after 2 years you would’ve gotten used to this. I’ve tried to stay out of it, but apparently you need to hear it from me as well. I will call you if I have to, and as you already have learned, I will tell you what’s on my mind, how things work with me, and you will listen… again.
You know, we’ve already had this conversation once. I figured you’d get it, but apparently not. I realize that there is an adjustment period to getting over the fact that your ex-husband is happy with out you, but honey it’s been 2 years. Time to get moving. You can call me the wicked-step-mother or whatever you may, because frankly it doesn’t bother me. You just need to realize that I’m not going anywhere, I’m here to stay, and I am most definitely not a fool. The man you left has changed as well, he’s made himself stronger and refuses to be a doormat again.
So I guess what it comes down to is – Suck it up buttercup, because this is the way it is.
A very aggravated girlfriend.