Intolerance and Hate


I had “friended” someone on Facebook that I knew as a child.  She was one of my mother’s friends and I looked up to her after my mom passed away.  I lost touch with her for years and the wonderful world of Facebook brought us back together.

Unfortunately the line that is drawn between us is way to great and I had to delete her.  Our political stances and morals/beliefs are too far apart and I can’t deal with that.  I’d say we’re polar opposites like me and my wonderful friend Em are,  but it’s beyond that.  I’m middle-left-leaning.  She’s so far right, I swear Obama turned gay and personally shat in her Wheaties

As most of you know two very important bills are up today that involves same-sex marriage and rights.  As most of you (should) know, I am FOR equal rights.  I acknowledge that in Christianity marriage is between a man and a woman, but I also realize that not all people are Christian.  Not all people think that way.  Frankly, I believe that marriage is between love and love.  If there so happen to be two penises in the equation, it doesn’t bother me.  If there happens to be two vaginas involved, fuck yes.

Anyway, so in my support of the gay community, I changed my profile picture and posted this:

Booyah bitches.

Booyah bitches.


… among other things.  Well, it attracted my mother’s friend.  Her response was to compare same sex marriage to pedophilia.  Yeah.  I’m not cool with that.  I am not even going to waste time to type why I’m not cool with that.  If you don’t know the difference between pedophilia and a same-sex relationship, or think there is any kind of comparison or lead to pedophilia, you honestly shouldn’t be reading my blog.  Or on my Facebook.  Or anywhere near my corner of the internet/county/state.

I informed her that I thought it was a disgusting comparison and was met with several links to articles about pedophilia and nasty groups that are for it.  Needless to say I told her she was a bigot and filled with hate, and that does not belong on my page, or in my life.  I stopped responding and calmed down with a friend over the phone.  Once I calmed down, I un-friended her.

Not only am I offended by her, or appalled might be more of a correct term.. but I am saddened.  I thought that maybe I could learn more of my mother through her.  I have my dad of course, but no one knows a woman like another woman.  I looked forward to selfishly getting something out the relationship but ended up with hate filling my page.

It’s odd.  I’ve always known about the bigots and the racists and such.  Hell, I’ve run into them out in every day life, but to find out someone that you looked up to and looked to as a child has such hatred in her heart is hard to swallow.  I don’t blame it on Christianity at all either, so don’t start that nonsense.  I know that most Christians aren’t like that, but it’s still hard to wrap my head around.

So I guess this is it.  Sorry Mom, I had to delete your friend.  I’m glad you’re not here anymore because I’d have to ask you what the hell you were thinking in the first place.


The Political Line


I am, more often than not, involved in some ridiculous political debate somewhere.  I am interested in politics and more dangerously, I am always one to voice my opinion.

My political views vary, you could almost say Im politically bipolar. Im called a dirty hippy liberal, an undercover conservative, or more realistically, independent.  More times than not, I vote democrat for the bigger picture and republican locally.

I am pro-choice. I do not like abortion, I do not like the thought of ending a life or the prospect of one anyway.  I believe adoption is a better option, but I also believe it is up to each individual woman to make that decision.  It’s our bodies and therefore our morals and beliefs that should lead us, not a government mandate.

I am for control to an extent.  Do I think that guns should be outlawed? Absolutely not. I come from a family that hunts ( for food not sport ) and I believe we have the right to protect ourselves and our families. I believe in concealed carry.  I believe crime would eventually drop if concealed carry was the norm. I also believe that assault rifles are not needed and dangerous. No argument can change my mind.  I believe that there should be background checks to purchase a gun, sorry but if youve been convicted of a violent crime … you dont need a gun.
I believe in regular drug tests for anyone who receives state assistance.  I believe that if you’re too broke to provide for your family that you’re too broke to do drugs. I do believe in assistance to help get back on your feet.

I believe in a lot of things, and so do most of you.  I enjoy a good debate because I might learn something new or consider a side I hadnt been aware of before. 

However, lately I’ve been withdrawing from debates. They’ve gone from fun and educational to hateful and angry.  Since Obama took office 4 years ago, the line dividing this country by it’s two major parties has gotten deeper.  There has been a lot of resentment which in turn spurs arguments and attacks.

To see the country so divided so unwilling to compromise is depressing.  The is no discussion, it seems, to learn opposing views. There is no live and let live or live and work together.  Its red vs. blue with little middle ground. Our country is tearing itself apart from the inside out.

One of my closest friends is my political opposite.  We often debate and even though, more often than not we dont agree 100%, we come to a civil compromise and quite often a feasible solution.  So I KNOW its possible for opposing sides to come to an agreement and work together, you just have to remove the hate from the equation.

Im not going to hate someone because they’re pro-life or anti-gun regulation. Fuck, this economy sucks and more people than you know have or still are using some sort of state assistance.  We all are still human beings with the ability to listen and work together. Why dont we use it instead of spewing hateful bullshit?

Because let me tell you, at this rate it wont be terrorism that destroys this country…. it will be us.

Imma Offend Me Some Homophobes (and lose some followers)


Warning:  This rant was set off (again) by this article :,0,4519751.story

You can choose to be offended by what I am about to write, by my personal opinion but frankly I do not give one-single-fuck.

I do not care if you will not like me anymore, if you’ll “unfriend” me, or if you’ll stop following this blog.  Frankly, if you’re a hate filled asshole then I’d rather you dropped off.

I’m not apologizing, fuck off.

Hi, my name is Sarah.  I am pro LGBT rights.  Two chicks getting married isn’t going to impact MY relationships.  Two dudes getting married isn’t going to impact MY relationship.  Christ, if they REALLY want to be in a sexless, miserable relationship that costs waaaay too much money to get out of, they can join the damned club. (joke)  It doesn’t impact MY life, MY morals, MY relationship.

I am a straight woman for gay rights.

I am a mother for gay rights.

I am a human-being for EQUAL rights.

I am sure as hell not going to stop shopping at a store because they have a *gasp* lesbian as a spokesperson. You’re not going to catch gay from clothes, at least not from ‘Penneys (joke).  Hell, she’s funny as shit, I might shop there more if she keeps being funny.  When I saw this article, I was appalled.  It makes me angry.  It makes me want to kick some people in the head.  What the hell is wrong with people?

Now normally, I don’t particularly get all riled up about some stupid right wing group shitting their little panties about something, but this one just irritated me.  It got me to thinking, it really stirred some thoughts, and I have some questions.  Okay.  Maybe they’re not questions, maybe they’re rhetorical questions, because frankly, I don’t want to hear the answers.

Christians.  This one is for you.

{Disclaimer: Okay, I know many, many Christians of every denomination that are not hate-mongers.  There are some very loving people out there that are NOT included in this rant.  If I do offend someone of the Christian faith, I do apologize, but I have to get this off of my chest.)

Hey.  So.  Most of the assholes we all see in the news protesting gay-rights, or just gay-people-existing, are Christians.  Very, VERY, conservative Christians.  What the hell guys?  I was brought up Lutheran, I spent waaaay too much time in my church, and I don’t ever remember my pastor saying you should hate gay people, that you should boycott companies that support gay rights, that you should be a general asshole and run your mouth against gay rights (which by the way, it gets old).  I don’t remember that part.  Maybe my church was special.  Or maybe my innocent-child-mind didn’t absorb hate speech.  What I learned from Church, The Bible and Sunday School was to LOVE one another.  To be KIND.  I don’t remember hate.

So tell me.  Pleeease explain to me why Gay people are bad.  How does a gay couple getting married “destroy the sanctity” of marriage?  Explain.  I can’t see how a gay couple getting married destroys anything, hell if anything, blame ME, I got divorced.  Hell, if I could go back in time, I’d divorce his ass AGAIN.

Even if you believe that it’s “not right” or a “sin” (have you seen what heterosexual people do in a club!?), why be an asshole? Aren’t you supposed to LOVE others?  If you honestly believe it’s a sin, shouldn’t you forgive?

Hell.  If you want to be a giant-homophobic-asshole, be one, don’t shop at JCPenney’s, don’t attend a gay marriage, don’t be gay.  Then the “horrific, sinful, GAYs” won’t affect your life.  Unless your kid is gay.  But that’s a whole other ballgame.  What other people do with their lives, doesn’t directly affect yours.  I don’t care what you say, it doesn’t.  If “gay marriage” is legal in every-god-damned-state, guess what? It’s still marriage.  Your marriage or lack there off hasn’t changed, won’t change.

I do not get it.

Just STOP being assholes.